I got an email with this interview in it. I don't know if any of you have read it, but if it is authentic it is mind blowing. Still even if it isn't it made me think a whole lot! I mean, could she possibly really mean this? Is there any truth to what she is saying? Do the most successful black women begin to feel the need to be with white men?(Dorothy Dandridge, Halle Berry, Iman, Serena Williams, Tyra, etc...)
I know Trina and I have joked about finding a good white man who could take care of us...but is that the only option for the next level of relationship most black women desire?? hmmm???
There is much to be said here, but I'll reserve my comments until later, but please tell me what you think after reading the interview , oh and keep enjoying the weekend.
Subject: Serena Williams Interview
Ms. Williams we are all interested in your new boyfriend.
There is no new boyfriend . I stopped playing with boys when I stopped dating black guys. I have a new man in my life and yes, he's white.
So you prefer to date white men instead of black guys?
Let's be real. If you are a successful black female you only have two choices....date outside of your race or date other successful black females.
Are you saying there are no successful black men to date?
Of course not but lets face it, if Oprah would date outside of her race she would be married with children now. The state of most black men is so low the only thing you can do is love them. Like a poor homeless dog. You can't expect it to protect you. You can only offer shelter and love and watch as our neighbor's pit-bull protects his home and family. I, unlike Oprah, am not forced to stay within those boundaries. I was born into a new generation of black women.
So Oprah is being forced to date Stedman?
All I can say is when you find a successful black women who is not married and does not have children it is because they refuse to accept the two choices. Some may go as far as marriage to a black guy but they realize divorce is inevitable so they do not have children. Or they have children with one and don't marry in order to preserve their wealth and good credit. Oprah is one of many who silently protests being stuck with such poor choices by refusing to marry and reproduce but you can see how much it hurts her. She's always giving away money to children's charities. I hope she makes the choice to marry a non-black soon so she can have a child of her own.
But you have decided to accept the two choices?
Yes. I grew up in California around the two extremes of wealth. If I could only get myself t o try the bisexual thing I would have been much happier in my relationships. Instead I dated black men. I loved many of them but they were just not suitable for marriage. Many of them were raised by women and had warped mentalities. So I finally had to date outside my race. When I moved to Miami, I accepted my status and dated men on my level.
What do you mean by warped mentalities?
Well, where do I begin? Many of them were raised predominantly by women and had this feminine/bisexual complex. Where they wanted to be treated like a female sometimes. For example, I would have the money & they would have the sex. I would teach them things. You know, all the things a woman likes a man to do, I would end up doing for them. Then if we would get into an argument, there would be a role reversal. All of a sudden, they would be the man wanting the respect of a king in his castle. Black men over the years have become less and less of value to black women both rich and poor. I predict in 10 years they will be obsolete. Now they serve little to no function and what little they can do, they don't want to do.
Why 10 years?
That's when going to a fertility clinic to get impregnated by a sperm donor will become as common and accessible as the flu shot. Women who want sex will do it with whoever they want (girl, guy, rich, poor, white ,black) and go to the bank (the sperm bank) when they are ready to have children. Even those who waited (like Oprah) will have fertilized eggs placed inVitro. That's the day the secret organization of women is waiting for. The day when men are 100% dis-empowered.
Are you apart of that organization?
No. They're a mostly white group. Plus that day for black men is practically here already. Black women are already raising 75% of the black population without a man. When fertility clinics become! e more affordable Black women will be standing in line. It will be just like plastic surgery. Everyone laughed at Michael Jackson but its becoming so popular now, that even poor blacks are getting work done...mostly breast reductions and liposuction.
So do you want men to be dis-empowered?
Heck, no! That's why I am with a white man now. I want a man to be a man and I am not going to settle for less just to stay within racial boundaries. A Black man in my position wouldn't do it so why should I. Don't get me wrong, I love black men. My father is black, I have dated black men all my life, and if I have a male child he will be part black. But my husband and I will raise him together so hopefully he will be a worthy choice for a worthy black female. Not the only choice, or "there's nothing better out there so I'll settle for this" choice. When you are successful you want the best. The best food, clothes, places to live etc. I want the best man also.
And you think the best man is a non-black man?
I think if there's a better choice for me, God would have shown me. I am in the public so I get to meet lots of people from all over the world athletes, Celebs etc. I am wealthy so I am invited and have traveled to the most prestigious events all over the world. Out of all those people, places and events....I had to choose the right man for me. Like it or not (with very few exceptions) a white man is the only real choice for a successful black female
Friday, May 26, 2006
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This is an old interview and Serena has publically refuted this awhile back ago....
I think I saw snippets of this before but fact is plenty of black women date white men for a lot of reasons. I say whatever works. Email me I got a question.
@ladynay...whew! i'm late and i'm glad it isn't true...
@princessdom...i agree that love is love, but i don't think it's the only option.
and i'll email u soon.
I saw this a second ago...personally I don't give a monkey's balls what color you are just as long as you love me LOL (I think that's a line from a 98 degrees song, umm yea I listened to them and what lol)...
wow...okay so it's not true...
I agree with Princess Dom, but I hope this interview is a hoax.
Have a Great and Safe Memorial Weekend!
~♥Nic♥~
This interview just sparked a big discussion at work.If this is true it is sad that she feels that way.
Please tell me this is not true! If so, I will remind Ms. Serena as to where she came from.
Black woman start supporting and building up these black men, you hear ME!!!
I've dated white men before and found them to be more charming and respectable then a black man. So, I applaud you for this blog. Wow, it was a great read.
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I hope this is NOT true...Lawd knows I love me some chocolate!
I didn't think the interview was authentic. Quite frankly, I don't think Serena is that articulate.
However, I am a Black woman and I am in a relationship (almost 3 years) with a white man.
Not for the reasons stated in this fake interview, though. My relationshiip with a white man has nothing to do with my feelings toward Black men. I have a father, step-father, four brothers, two brothers-in-law and a son who are all Black men and I love all of them. My choice to date a white man was based on how he treats me, not on my past relationships with Black men. I didn't go actively searching for a white man but when the opportunity came knocking on my door I didn't NOT consider it because of his skin color.
Up until last year, I never dated outside of my race (well a few African men). Last year, I began dating this Mexican man (he calls himself blaxican..because his mom is American black). Anyway..okay so we have dated (movies, sex-horrible sex at that, dinners, conversations, Friday nights, dance lessons, etc, etc). He is professional and all and generally a nice guy. You know what I have found it all depends on each individual man. All Latin men ain't all that and all black men ain't all that. I haven't tried a black man...or even white woman (I am bisexual) but it will depend in the person. I can imagine adding onto the regular of trying to find someone being famous and wealthy is hard. I haven't walked a mile in her shoes but I would love to touch her booty! (I'm a freak..*He He*)
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