Last night at work a 12 year old boy died.I heard that he had been a sickly child. What's funny is that even though I knew that didn't take away from the tragedy of it, I found a little bit of solace in it.
Because as a parent, when a child dies...your heart goes to that place. You think that it could be your child. I saw his mother and as you would expect, she just looked through. She looked as if she had been drained. Like there was no energy, no more tears, no words...she just sat in the room with him, her face in her hands. She left to go pick up her husband but they never returned.
My first thought was, how could she leave? Why didn't they return to say goodbye?
But suddenly I remembered...my most tragic memory.
When my mom passed, I WOULD'NT GO to the hospital to see her lying there.
I loved her with my whole being but just didn't have the strength to go.
I wondered if the hospital staff questioned why her children didn't come...
But there is no way to say what you would do, until it is you.
I've learned that lesson on countless occassions.
With this in mind, I recognize that each day is precious. I thank God for another day of smiles, health and love in the lives of my children. In the memorable words of Lauren Hill,
" Now the joy of my world is in"...'lijah, Micah, 'Mayah and Jo'!
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That really was tragic last night. When she didn't come back I also thought that she just probably couldn't handle it. Eventhough we say how we would act, and how we would fall out the reality is you never know what your reaction would be. You think that you wouldn't be able to go on but you would eventually find the strenght from somewhere....I know that from experience...I thought I would never be right when she passed, but somehow we are ok
@trina...exactly
it is strange sometimes. working where we work.how somehow life and death collides. how could we be in the same room as a boy whose life was over and discuss life, heard music, kept on working, and doing what we do...it was a crazy reality check for me.
it all ends u know?
i saw them zip that boy up...and it just seemed like, that's it.
finality.
(and i didn't even know him)
just crazy. that's all
i appreciate life...
luv u mama
@tam..lol
yep we are all hospital workers..lol
Trina and I be working like "hebrew slaves" as she puts it..lol
naw, we don't. lately we been a little more busy, but in general we enjoy our job and being able to work together.
it is always sad when someone dies, especially a child.
but yeah, i know u love them kids and thanx 4 the compliment.
smooches!
I can't imagine loosing one of my children! They are my world! One of the 1000 reasons i can't work in a hospital, i do not handle death in any situation well at all.
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Like it's been said, we never know how we will react when tragedy hits!
You mentioned the child was sickly so maybe it was in the best interest for it to happen when it did. After you see someone sick and suffering for so long, you kinda hope for them to have peace, twisted I know, but true.
I don't want to imgine my baby gone, nope! I am not even liking the fact that she has been on vacation away from me!
Your babies are kewt! The twins are in the middle or the end?
Wow!
What a heavy thing to have to deal with.
Your passion for being a parent is one of the things I admire the most about you!
And I love that Lauren Hill song! Actually, I love the whole album.
Very sad at the 12 year old boy...
Love your pics and insight and being a mom.
great pics! i love the love in them.
@melinda...yes, i understand where u are coming from. it is always hard dealing with death. i've been surprised by my resilience and ability to keep it moving, because I have to. I understand how care givers survive.
Our children are really gifts from God and yes, I'm glad I stopped thru...I'll be back. u do the same.
@ladynay...my sentiments exactly.
I feel all of what u r saying.
and thanx, my twins are the middle two, my baby is just a giant (he's 2 yrs younger than the twins)
friar...aw, thanx!
and i know! i loooove lauren hill's old cd! the miseducation...
it is timeless!
i was pregnant with Elijah when it came out...about 8 yrs ago.
That's amazing
@paula and glory..thank ya'll
luv u bunches
What a beautiful family!! Isn't it funny that someone else's loss makes you realize how truly blessed you are?
Thanx for stoppin' by and checkin' me out!! Stop in anytime. ;-)
Very emotional and touching post. Although I don't have children yet, I could only imagine the pain from losing one. I have lost a couple of people to me in life. My great grandmother died after a long two year battle of the effects of two strokes. I was by her bedside for those two years assisting her. We became very close. I wasn't with her when she passed but I was with her body about two hours after the fact. Second, my uncle died unexpectedly. He went into the hospital with some complications and never left. Again I wasn't with him when he past, but spent about two hours with his body. To me it didn't bother me. It was a time to be with family and surprisingly in both situations we talked to those bodies as if they were only asleep.
Your babies are beautiful and you are blessed to have them.
God Bless you.
You have a lovely family. I bet there is never a dull moment in your house!
That was a touching post. The ones that we cherish can be taken at any moment...Makes you re-evaluate you life..
What a wonderful post! From tragedy comes understanding. It is wonderful to know that you have learned not to judge the actions of others...that is a hard thing to do.
I see why your children are your joy...they are absolutely beautiful.
Thank you for visiting my site...and for your comment. It's pretty ironic...I posted a similar blog today. Yours definitely is another example to add to my list (see my blog for more info.) Interesting...very interesting.
Life is so fragile and death is always hard to deal with..even when you expect it!
Love the photos, beautiful!
It truly is sad to see the pain of a parent loosing a child, it would be very difficult for any parent. And knowing the good mother you are and how you adore and love your children, it must have reached home. God Bless Chan.
You amaze me...all those little people and you still find the time to blog :-) Stay blessed.
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