Tonight I had a breath of fresh air.
I was invited out on a spur of the moment date. The man, I knew very little about.
He arrived to pick me up directly from work in his vehicle. When he got there I wasn't ready yet so he patiently waited while I finished up. I got in the car and we went to the movies.
We talked a little and somehow we ended up discussing the loss of my mom. I got teary eyed and felt the need to end the conversation...it was just a place I wasn't willing to go with a new person. He told me that he hoped one day I would find the person with whom I could share all my emotions and be un afraid to let it all out. I agree with those sentiments.
Tonight, I paid nothing, it was an easy connection. He opened every door for me...it was just wonderful.
To you, this may not be a big deal. But to me it is. Finally a man who doesn't need anything from me. Not a place to stay, not a ride, not a loan til pay day, not even a kiss...just my company.
Man, that's refreshing. I don't feel any thing profound, no butterflies...it's not even like I can see past tonight, but still...it was wonderful to be picked up, to be treated like a lady, to be complimented.
I've been with too many men that left it to me to assume that they thought I was pretty.
Tonight...he told me that I was beautiful, tonight he gazed at me, tonight he marveled at what a "lady" I am...he made me feel like I mattered and assured me that chivalry isn't dead.
That feels good.
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Wassup sweetie...feels like forever since i've commented on here. But u'r right, chivalry is NOT dead, it's just sadly reserved for to the men that believe that it is timeless and unconforming, and for the women that really appreciate it. I'm glad you recieved another chance to be SHOWN a tiny bit of your worth. I pray that you recieve many more glances. much luv
Atleast you can appreciate a nice gentleman.
On my last date I did all of the above. I was a gentlemen. I took her to the movie's and to a nice resturant. I spent like 70 bucks and I didn't care because I really liked this person but it was like all of it was in vain.
She recently told me that I acted "phony" on our date which I can't understand because I don't act no different anywhere I go. I am simply "Casey" and all of my friends can tell you that I am a good guy.
I think it mainly boiled down to the point that I was a church going Christian and I wasn't willing to change for no one.
I am so glad that you had a good time. Are we talking another date in the future?
@incomp...u r so precious. i've missed ur comments. i really appreiate u and i anticipate being shown over and over again in my future!!
smooches
@casey..i'm so sorry about your experience.
maybe chivalry is endangered because many women don't appreciate it, because many women say they want it, but think it's corny when they get it.
i have to admit..i used to be turned off by the gentlemen, the nice guys, the ones who had something going for them.i preferred what me and my girls refer to as "science projects." But i've been abused, lied to, cheated on, used, and through enough jail stints...that I've learned the value of a real man, the value of a gentle spirit and a chivalrous demeanor...God's got better for you.
as for the next date thing...he told me he wanted to see me at least two more times...before the end of the week, and he pointed out that it was 2:00 am..TUESDAY morning...so 'd say there is a good chance for another date.
I'll keep u posted.
:)
@latin...it does feel good to be treated nicely...hold out for that!
and please b safe going to visit ur granpop! i'ma miss u
CHIVALRY is DEAD! and you confused ladies killed it! i feel for cuz you went out with, while he made all the sacrifices and was willing to go down the road with you on some personal issues, you still cant seem to look beyont that night. all the work and efort he put in he should be at least a thought tommorrow, but those Guys never get the chance to make dreams come true, but the nigga who show up late from a job he dont have, and is short on gas and the cost of the movie, is only concerned bout getting some and will punch u in da face on any given wednesday, will have the option of another date. in fact it is the "science project" of a man the will gain the longterm love while the deserving party has to settle for just one night! lol sucks to be the nice guy. but it probably sucks worst to miss out on him!
wow...everybody reading my blog...that comment is from my dag on brother....
sour grapes or something???
i'd say so. lol
i feel u unique...chivalry may be endangered...but it is indeed not dead.
and fyi...we're going out again tonight...so now!
and thanx for makin a sista smile.
smooches
@tam...hehehe...that's so funny and so true.
May you encounter times like that over and over again. I bet it felt nice!
Thanks for coming to see me. I shall return.
@ladynay...aw, thanx for the sweet words...
and yes, please come back again
My best friend and I were just talking about how much we enjoy gentlemen. Actually I told her that I'm too suspicious to appreciate all the little nice things. Maybe I need to stick to the thuggish ones...
Wow...it's nice to know that chivalry isn't dead. That's a nice story.
Thanks for sharing!
I am with the guys on this one.
Most women have a hard time appreciating chivalrous guys.
We try and be nice and thoughtful.
But women seem to not really want nice guys anymore.
And then add my ugly looks into my sweet, chivilrous nature and I am screwed.
aww your post made me teary eyed. and you look so good on the pic you posted below. just.... AWW!
@myrah...i hope so too. i have a good feeling that it all comes natural for him. my brother was quick to point out to me that the guys who are worthwhile we tend to give the "brakes" but the jerks we give "gas", so to speak. I'm trying not to be typical, and really appreciate him.
@brownsoul..hey gurl..glad u stopped by! I can be suspicious too...but this time rather than bail out at the first sign of something good...I'ma hang a round and see if it's what it is cracked up to be.
@nsearch...np girl, glad u liked it.
@clint...you are not ugly! and yeah we women have a tendency to not appreciate the good men. sadly. i have to admit,this guy isn't necessarily my "type" as far as his looks...but at this point in my life who you are...far superceeds what you look like. I don' been with some FIIIINE idiots!
I'm learning. And your special someone is out there. shoot! mine is too!
@charlesx...awww, that's so sweet that u felt that way about my post and my picture. See you're rubbing off on me!!! awwww!!! lol
Touching babygirl!
@boss...aw, u do have a heart huh??
j/k i know u do. glad it made u feel sumthin
I don't give a dam if chivalry is dead or not...what I want to know is why the hell am I just hearing about this? You know everything that is going on with me. Let me find out you are a f.a.b. Haha
trina!!!
don't b mad...i was waitin to see u to talk about it!
a F.A.B ??? ME ???? NEVER!!! lol
Damn I loved it. You deserve it.
I didn't know who blog I was on, girl I just went to this link from Friar. Ain't that a trip.
@ gp..me and u ma, that's destiny...lol
thanx girly
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